Qualities of Attractiveness

Everyone is out there searching for the perfect formula to concoct a love potion of desire and attractiveness to lure many, or perhaps just one, unsuspecting male into their lair of love, snare them in their web of seductiveness and keep them around to fight off the winter cold.

This formula of sorts has eluded us for so long that we have become deluded into thinking that the answer lies in so many superficial and baseless solutions.

Many a time I have been told that I have a “quality” of sorts that both attracts people very easily and makes me very likeable. Unsure as to what exactly it was that made a person make such a statement I let things slide. However, on recent evaluation it has become clear that the aforementioned quality can only be my self-confidence.

Just as a single mutation within a cell can result in the formation of cancer, so too have we allowed the concept of appearance to grow like a cancer within us. We have allowed our judgement to be clouded by ideals of mirroring societal ideas of beauty and attractiveness. It cannot be denied that the physical appearance of an individual does factor in to whether or not we will chose to engage in coitus with a person but it isn't the only reason we are attracted to them.

We look up to others, idolise and name them our role models not simply because they look good. We see qualities in them that we aspire to attain ourselves and the main quality we see is self-confidence. A person who is comfortable with who they are, is by far more attractive than a person with tons of foundation and fake eyelashes.

Many of us lack self-confidence based simply on the fact that we feel our outside appearance isn't adequate enough. As a result we become meek and allow others to change who we are. We start making excuses for the fundamental qualities and principles that make us who we are until we no longer recognise ourselves. Where do we draw the line?

The moment we realise that we don’t have to apologise for simply being ourselves is a moment of self-actualisation, the pinnacle of Maslow’s Hierarchy. It is a moment of intense understanding and maturity to realise that the person you are demands no explanation. The flaws we have define us and acceptance of them allows for greater understanding.

Members of the opposite sex (same sex or both, depending on personal preference) are automatically attracted to a person who exudes self-confidence. Like cutting off a gangrenous foot, getting rid of the excess make up, uncomfortable clothing, fake accent and any other horrendous methods of gaining attention comes like a breath of fresh air. Removing the stench of plasticity, that is now so common within society, can only serve to make you a better person.

The solution is simple, be comfortable in your skin, laugh at your mistakes and don’t be afraid of saying what you think simply because you fear it will be disliked. Chances are, the more in touch you are with whom you are, the more likely you are to attract the correct person, engage in sexual intercourse and procreate like the licentious Hominoidea.